Why Are We Still Holding On?

There comes a time in every relationship when you ask yourself  “Am I happy.” We may have been very happy when we began our relationship with our significant other but that doesn’t necessarily mean that we are still happy. Sometimes people simply grow apart and there isn’t a thing we can do to change that. If you aren’t happy in your relationship, why should you stay and hold onto it. Some may say “I’m staying for the children.” or “I’m afraid I’ll never find anyone else to love me.” These are terrible excuses and we are only hurting ourselves. It’s not fair to us, our children, or your significant other to stay in a relationship that you honestly no longer want to be in. So why do we really still hold on? Your heart is no longer in it but it’s your mind that wants to hold on. You want things to work out so you still hold on hoping that things will change. Yes counseling may fix a few problems but it will not make you stay in love with that person. You may still love them and you always will love them but you are no longer in love with them and that’s okay. This may not be what you wanted but it happened. It’s imperative that you move on and not stay in a relationship if you aren’t happy or no longer have a connection with them.

You should cherish those memories you had with your significant other because you may have spent some of the best years of your life with them. When it’s time to move on, move on. Yes you will love again, yes you will be happy again and your children will still love you the same. Don’t hold on to something that no longer exists. Just be glad it did and be thankful for what you did have with them.

-Misha

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